5 Tips To Cope With Missing Out For Nurses Working The Holidays

Dec 17 / Teresa Sanderson, RN, CCM
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As healthcare continues its 24/7 rhythm through the holiday season, nurses face unique challenges balancing work obligations with family time. The struggle is real - from managing anxiety and emotional distress to dealing with that persistent fear of missing out on precious moments at home. As someone who has been in nursing for over 30 years and navigated major depression to recovery, I want to share some essential strategies to help you maintain your mental well-being during the holiday season.

Set Boundaries and Manage Expectations

Working during the holidays already places significant demands on your emotional and physical resources. It's crucial to set clear boundaries around what you take on outside of work obligations. Be selective about additional responsibilities unless they're absolutely necessary. Remember - you can do many things, but you cannot do everything.

Take time to visualize how your shift might unfold and adjust your expectations accordingly. When you're off duty, focus on activities that bring you joy and create a sense of peace. Choose quality over quantity when it comes to family time.

Prioritize Self-Care During Shifts

One valuable lesson I learned after returning to nursing following a three-year break due to depression was the importance of pacing myself. When that internal voice urges you to "speed up," that's your signal to intentionally slow down. Racing through tasks increases the risk of errors and compromises your well-being.

Simple yet crucial self-care practices include:

  • Staying hydrated throughout your shift

  • Taking regular bathroom breaks

  • Leaving the unit for your full 30-minute lunch break

  • Practicing mindful breathing during moments of stress

These aren't revolutionary ideas, but they make a significant difference. Even on your busiest days, taking that lunch break allows you to return refreshed and better equipped to handle the rest of your shift.


Stay Connected with Loved Ones

Maintain connections with family during breaks or evening downtime. Share updates, check in on holiday activities, and let them know when you'll be available. This helps maintain a sense of involvement even when you're physically absent.

Don't forget to connect with your coworkers too. Share your holiday plans, discuss your feelings about working during celebrations, and support each other through challenging moments. It's perfectly okay to acknowledge feeling sad or disconnected - expressing these emotions often helps process them better.


Seek Support Early

If holiday work schedules are causing unusual levels of stress or anxiety, don't hesitate to reach out for help. Access peer support networks and employee assistance programs. Talk to your supervisor about your concerns. As someone who waited too long to seek help with depression, I cannot stress enough the importance of early intervention. Addressing challenges when they first arise leads to better outcomes than waiting until you're completely overwhelmed.


Practice Gratitude and Reflection

One of my daily practices involves handwritten journaling. This simple act provides a powerful outlet for processing emotions and acknowledging both challenges and blessings. When you put pen to paper, you create space to release burdens and redirect focus toward aspects of life that inspire gratitude. This practice consistently helps restore a sense of peace and perspective.


Remember, you're not alone in this experience. While working through the holidays brings unique challenges, implementing these strategies can help you maintain your mental well-being and find moments of joy amid the demands of nursing care. Your mental health matters, and taking care of yourself enables you to continue caring for others effectively.


To all nurses working this holiday season - we see you, we value you, and we appreciate your dedication. Consider joining our online peer support community for additional support and connection during this time. Remember, taking care of your mental health isn't selfish - it's essential for both your well-being and the quality of care you provide.